Quick answer
Ask for a reply by a clear date, name exactly who is invited, and ask only the questions you need answered, such as meal choice. Short, specific wording gets faster and more accurate replies than charming but vague wording.
The four things every RSVP needs
A reply date, the names of everyone invited, a simple accept or decline, and any question you truly need answered, such as a meal choice or a dietary need. Everything else is decoration.
Formal wording
For a formal invitation, a traditional card works well:
The favor of a reply is requested by the first of June.
Name(s) ________
Joyfully accepts / Regretfully declines
Relaxed wording
For a relaxed wedding, plain words are friendlier and just as clear:
Can you make it? Please let us know by June 1.
Wouldn't miss it / Will celebrate from afar
Name exactly who is invited
The RSVP is where guests discover whether their partner or children are included. Print or write the invited names on each card, or say "We have reserved two seats in your honor". Guests are far less likely to add people who were not invited when the number is in front of them.
Ask meal and dietary questions once
Only if your venue or caterer requires meal selections in advance, ask for each guest's choice by name. Add a single line for allergies and dietary needs. Your caterer will need this, and collecting it with the RSVP saves a second round of messages.
Make online replies easy
Many guests prefer to reply online. If you use a wedding website or an online RSVP, put the address on the card in large, clear type, and use the same questions online and on paper so the answers match.
Frequently asked questions
What should a wedding RSVP card say?
A reply date, the names of the people invited, accept or decline, and any question you need answered such as a meal choice or dietary needs.
How do we show who is invited on the RSVP?
Write the invited names on each card, or state the number of seats reserved. Guests are less likely to add uninvited people when the number is clear.
Can we collect RSVPs online?
Yes. Put the website address clearly on the card and ask the same questions online and on paper so the replies can be combined.